Comments on: A Father’s Sins

By: Tots

Tots — Thu, 08 Dec 2011 08:28:58 +0000

After reading, there are rooms of thoughts. If today the father bears a illegitimate child with the mistress. Then choose to divorce the legal wife and married the mistress. Then the illegitimate child will become legal ? In this case, should I say it will be the father’s duty to decide if to provide the status required to get the rightful claims he would Like to give to his child in the first place? Does that makes the legal wife and children from the first marriage any better in any case ? Or via versa .. ? Having the law written this way .. How much it will help from the fact which has Been done ? And how much it helps to cut down divorce rate ? Was it really necessary to differ the status of the child who is innocent in the first place ? So law was pass to make the necessary actions required to undo the status ,was it?

By: Illegit child 2

Illegit child 2 — Fri, 14 Oct 2011 15:51:34 +0000

I am a child born out of a wedlock and all I want is not my father’s wealth but to see him again once more. Would that be unfair at all to the ‘legal’ family? He hurt his real family in producing us, and so the revenge from the ‘legal’ family is directed to the ‘illegal’ family. Who is the victim again here?

By: Depressed Wife

Depressed Wife — Sun, 31 Jul 2011 19:42:30 +0000

@Illegit Child, My husband had few inappropriate affairs with females, and he hurted me deeply too; not just by his words, but by his repeated actions too! He promised not to repeat, yet did it again and again. To the extent that I had to go for blood tests to ensure I did not contract any disease from him. Now I stayed “away” from him. It would be unfair to my children if any of his illegitimate ones come knocking my door for his inheritance (if there is any). Hurting us during his lifetime is bad enough; hurting us once again after his death is uncalled for!

By: Illegit child

Illegit child — Mon, 21 Feb 2011 06:31:42 +0000

@Mira,

I am child born out of a wedlock and reading what you said hurt me. It is as though I am not my father’s child and that I may not receive his inheritance, because I, in the eyes of the law should not even have been given life…

By: Mira

Mira — Sun, 18 Jul 2010 14:36:24 +0000

If you give illigitimate children a share of what is rightfully due the legitimate, you will encourage the breakdown of marriage as an institution. Don’t pattern Singapore after countries like the UK or USA, who are in the midst of moral devastation. Just ask any native of those countries and they’d caution against following their footsteps.

It may have been the sin of the father and his mistress (yet remember that adultery should not be condoned), but the legitimate child and the suffering spouse should not be further humiliated, insulted and hurt by taking what would rightfully be theirs and giving a chunk to the illigitimate child. To further reward a husband’s infidelity, after his demise, is ridiculous.

Anyway, if a man wanted to, he could pen a will. I think the Muslims have it right. Only the legitimate family should be cared for and seen as heirs. After all, in practically all religions, adultery wuld not be rewarded, for doing so would encourage women to bear illigitimate children- for there would be no stigma in trying to steal a married man. They’d even gain financial security whilst he is alive- and inherit after his death!